Wedding Songs by Personality Type
It’s easy to look up the top wedding songs and simply take your pick… but your wedding song is something that you’ll remember forever and something that says a lot about you as a couple and should ideally fit the style of your event and your personality type as a couple.
In fact, Brides.com helped us understand the connection between the personality types assigned in the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) assessment with song choice and event style. This questionnaire is designed to help people understand themselves and others, then consequently “lead more fulfilling and effective lives,” by assigning them a four-letter personality preference using a combination of eight letters below:
E(xtrovered) or I(ntroverted) + S(ensing) or i N(tuition) + T(hinking) or F(eeling) + P(erceiving) or J(udging)
Here are a few examples from Brides.com that show how personality type can tie back to your event personality and wedding song selection:
The Reluctant Bride
Wedding Dress: Subtle, sophisticated little white dress.
First Dance Song: “Somewhere Only We Know” by Keane
From the title alone, the introvert in you is immediately drawn to a song about escaping a crowd (“And if you have a minute, why don’t we go / Talk about it somewhere only we know”). And, the ISTJ’s realism shines in lyrics like “I’m getting old, and I need something to rely on.” This acoustic version is laidback and romantic—perfect for a non-fussy ceremony or the car ride to the airport before your elopement.
Food: Cheese and Chocolate Boards
Since ST-types tend to be ultra-detailed, offerings will be grouped strategically to best complement their interaction of flavors.
Planning Strategy: All You!
ISTJ peeps take pleasure in the orderly. Once you’ve made your decisions, you’ll work steadily towards your goals, regardless of distractions. Even if you’re not about a lot of fanfare, what you are about, you’ll execute just fine yourself.
The Nurturing Bride
Wedding Dress: Think modern fairytale, Disney princess statement dress.
First Dance Song: “Wanted” by Hunter Hayes
“I want to make you feel wanted” is your life mantra turned lyrical. But, take a minute of the three or so in this pop-country ballad for yourself too. (“Your beauty’s deeper than the make-up…”)
Food: Next-Level Cocktail Hour Hors d’oeuvres
Bless you, for refusing to let your guests suffer crappy crudités while you and your partner are photographed during cocktail hour. From fried mac & cheese lollipops to grilled cheese with tomato soup shots, comfort food assembled for convenience appeals to all your considerate tendencies.
Planning Strategy: Friends-and-Family Approach
Many ISFJs have an uncanny ability to remember specifics about what matters to people who are close to them. In your constant pursuit of minding the preferences of others, you’ll want everyone weighing in. Just beware of conflicting opinions, and don’t be afraid to remind people this is still your wedding.
The Ambitious Bride
Wedding Dress: Backless
You’re “bringing sexy back” with a dramatic swoop that showcases moxie and your recent proclivity for push-ups since you’ll likely be committed in your fitness goals as well.
First Dance Song: “Love Is Easy” by McFly
INTJs are often called “The Scientists” due to how well their organizational skills complement their honest insight. You are quick to build observations about the world around you and understand new ideas. So for you, love is just “a simple equation / With no complications / To leave you confused / If this is love, love, love / Hmm, it’s the easiest thing to do.”
Food: Raw Bar
Decadent, but daunting—still, the quality-control required by seafood is nothing the structured and application-based INTJs can’t handle.
Planning Strategy: Wedding Blogs
Apply the scientific method by observing multiple ideas and inspiration online and then figuring out what works for your situation.
The Artistic Bride
Wedding Dress: Minimalist
The chic vibes of modern minimalism suggest a quiet artistic statement without offending anyone—the best of both worlds for an ISFP.
First Dance Song: “How Long Will I Love You?” by Ellie Goulding
You can’t listen to Goulding’s piano-driven melody here without swaying. The sweetness of her voice and her words effortlessly capture the ISFP’s concern for others; you guys won’t even love someone unless he/she gives the okay (“How long will I love you / As long as stars are above you / And longer if I may). And in the final stanza, we hear the ISFP’s declaration of YOLO, albeit more refined: “We’re all traveling through time together / Every day of our lives / All we can do is do our best / To relish this remarkable ride.”
To promise happiness to every one of your guests, you will literally have “everything,” and multiple other bagel types, with a wide assortment of smears and gluten-free offerings too.
Planning Strategy: Apps
Many ISFPs need space to evaluate and work. They value alone time and being left to their own time frames, so apps they can scroll through on their private phones are one way to go.
The Fun Bride
Wedding Dress: Embellished
Fashion-focused and concerned with trends, the ESTP will choose a socially-acceptable dress that’s on-point, but still, OF COURSE, fun! Embellishments provide a “wow” factor without drifting too far from the mainstream.
First Dance Song: “I Believe In A Thing Called Love” by The Darkness
Take a spin on the boring slow dance with this popular banger from the early 2000s. C’mon—that falsetto is all fun.
Food: Late-Night Breakfast
A night-out with you has ended in a Waffle House or 24/7 diner more than once, so this just feels right.
Planning Strategy: Top-Rated Planner
Planners who are well-connected, informed, and trendy with a proven track record only need apply.
The Trendy Bride
Wedding Dress: Your aesthetic is runway-ready, so your dress is likely to be as of the moment as they come.
First Dance Song: “Lost in Your Light” by Dua Lipa
The ESFPs have known the up-and-coming reign of Dua Lipa for a hot minute, so it’s understandable they’d choose a good-feeling, upbeat love song from one of the most prominent artists on the scene right now.
Brunch will never go out of style, and as daytime weddings become more and more hip, it’s an in-vogue choice for ESFP brides.
Planning Strategy: Pinterest
You’ll stay abreast of what’s trending, and find the widest range of ideas so you can be sure to have the most fun and diverse options for your guests.
The Edgy Bride
Wedding Dress: Something different and possibly another color
A traditional white, strapless wedding dress feels way passé to many ENTPs, who are more likely to prefer these colorful standouts.
First Dance Song: “The Way I Am” by Ingrid Michaelson
There’s a playful sardonic vibe to this song (“I’d buy you Rogaine when you start losing all your hair. Sew on patches to all you tear.”). While its narrator seems to acknowledge she can sometimes be a little prickly, the way she is works for her lover, so c’est la vie! (“Cause I love the way you call me baby. And you take me the way I am.”)
Food: Specialty Cuisine
Maybe the flavors are surprising or spicy. Perhaps there’s a funny story about you and your groom’s first date at an Indian restaurant. Even if they’re a little unorthodox for a wedding, if you ENTPs love these foods and want them, they’re there.
Planning Strategy: All of them
ENTPs are quick, ingenious, and bored by routine. Since you guys are quick to turn to one new interest after another, it’s likely you’ll use a myriad of sources to inspire your wedding decisions.
The Executive Bride
Wedding Dress: Metallic
Your dynamic presence demands a dress that’s simultaneously glamorous, edgy, and unapologetically you.
First Dance Song: “The Book of Love” by Peter Gabriel
Your nuanced, and admittedly sometimes thorny, sense of humor plays out loud and clear in a song with lyrics like, “The book of love is long and boring / No one can lift the damn thing.”
Food: mistake-free Menu
ENTJs cannot abide by inefficiency or easily-avoided mishaps.
Planning Strategy: Oversee a Planner
An ENTJ finds few things as satisfying as lively, demanding conversation. She’ll respect her planner’s expert opinions, but will obviously wield the final stamp of approval herself.
Don’t see a category that you fit into above? Here are a few other wedding song favorites:
- “BLACK AND WHITE” BY NIALL HORAN
- “PERFECT” BY ED SHEERAN AND BEYONCE
- “YOU ARE THE REASON” BY CALUM SCOTT AND LEONA LEWIS
- “CONVERSATIONS IN THE DARK” BY JOHN LEGEND
- “LOVER” BY TAYLOR SWIFT
- “SPEECHLESS” BY DAN + SHAY
- “STUCK WITH U” BY ARIANA GRANDE AND JUSTIN BIEBER
- “ANYTHING FOR YOU” BY LEDISI FEATURING PJ MORTON
- “I AM YOURS” BY ANDY GRAMMER
Despite your wedding planning style, food style or first dance selection, we are excited to help you pull together the overall look of your event with the wedding rentals. Our professional team is happy to take you on a walk through our warehouse to show you our beautiful, diverse inventory and suggest pieces that will bring your vision to life. Contact us today to schedule a time to discuss your event.